Hi there, well i was thinking the other day about the recent posts i made about dating and the do’s and don’ts about it as well as giving advice and tips about what to say during a date and how to choose a good dating site for you. There are still so many other things i would like to talk about regarding dating and this topic is about people you should avoid, how to spot them whether its online or face to face and how to make the make sure you don’t get trapped into a situation which you may regret later. Of course each to their own some people want different things but most wouldn’t want these types of people or to be treated in a ill manor way.
WOMEN TO AVOID
I need money : Right most people in life struggle one way or another and it can be based on many things, but if your on a dating site or you just met a woman in the bar and she starts talking about the difficulties she has financially be aware!!!!. Of course she might might be talking about it in general without implying anything but some of women would us a typical sob story such as
”my parent is sick” , ”family member is unwell or dying”, ”i can’t afford the medication”, ”i can’t pay my rent and will be kicked out in the streets” or for the online site ” i need you so send me money so i can come and see you” .
These are and i’m sure 99% scams. There are women who do this for a living, meeting men making them feel sorry so they would give money, promise to pay them back and then they vanish without a trace and since they won’t use their real name or anything it will be hard for the police even to track them down. Also some girls works on behalf of other people who may be hackers, so if you send money to her via wire or bank transfer these people will try to find a way to hack into your account.
I am materialistic : We all love to be treated once in a while and we enjoy some luxury time to time. But some women will literally mention their love for material over and over and they will hint it clearly. These women are also known as gold diggers or wanna be gold diggers. They might say things such as ” my ex use to buy me at least one pair of expensive earrings once a week” or ” my ex use to drive a Ferrari and would let me drive it all the time” , ” my ex use to have a huge mansion”. Now i don’t know about you guys but if i was a man and went on a date with someone like that i would be put off. Its clear she is more interested in your bank account then you. I mean you might mention one or two things regarding your previous partners but some just can’t help but to make it clear that they only want one thing.
I am clingy : i don’t think i have to explain much about this but how to spot one is very easy. Of course from the constant phone calls asking why you haven’t called back or the constant times she’s checking your facebook. Though remember some women will use the ” do you still like me??” nearly every time you don’t reply or call back straight away. The reason to avoid well because it will drive you mad eventually. Despite how nice or beautiful she is, if she doesn’t give you space to breath or even acknowledge the fact that you might be busy then its better to avoid.
I am the only girl. When i say this i mean as in ‘‘ i am the only girl you should talk to, not other girls who are friends”. Now i can understand the not flirting with other girls part but not the ones that are his friends??? It would be like you telling her to stop all contacts with her guy friends despite the fact that they grew up together. Avoid these types of women its a bit more then insecure its more like control and possessive.
MEN TO AVOID
I am the best: This is to referring to egos -_-. i don’t even know where to start haha. But if you meet a guy and he starts to talk about himself like he is god given, the chances are that he is not. Avoid these men because eventually you will become sick of his bullshits and it will put you off. Also most of the time their only saying these high and dramatic just to impress you to get in your pants and nothing further.
I am a bum: Yeah i’m sorry but don’t go for men who are lazy bums or has not prospect what so ever. He will eventually rely on you and by then by the end of it you will be more like a mother to him rather then a girl friend. I’m not saying he has to be a banker or a lawyer but he at least must have some sort of job he can support himself. Help and advice is good but don’t end up making yourself work 24/7 just to support both you and him.
I am alpha male: When i say this i mean like if you meet a guy and he’s still living the 1500s where you have to cook and clean and have no other prospects because he sees you as inferior being. It’s 2013 and i think that we are all equal regardless to gender. A man that treats you like a inferior is a big no no.
I like to get around : Now this one is referring to men who has slept around. This can either be true or it can be a lie to to impress. However i don’t know why a man would think its cool to tell a woman he has slept with over 100 people -_- . True or not avoid unless you just want a casual thing then fine. But remember this some guys will use the fact they have been with so many women to make you feel bad. Not because you didn’t do as much as him but they will say on the sly something like ” oh your not making as much effort, you know how many other i women i can get” or ” All the women i have been with were always hot, you seem to be letting yourself go” I’m not even joking some men will say things like this just to hurt you. So true or not just avoid this big drama.
I am possessive: Not of course maybe in the beginning you wouldn’t see this but if a guy keeps calling you all the time, texing, facebooking you 100 times per day, then you know this is not a good sign. They will say things like ” where are you”, why your not picking up” who are you with” these questions are normal of course but being asked the same question 100 times per day can be a bit too much. They will even use line ” if you don’t pick up or respond in 10 mins i’m breaking up with you”. These are just words to control you. don’t put up with people who feels the need to treat you like a property rather then a human.
So there you go my theory on people to avoid during or even meeting a person i will just sum up the main things to avoid in both genders
- Sob stories/self pity
- Trust issue
Anyways i should be sure to be writing more regarding to dating and types of people 🙂
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