How to avoid bitches and asshole before or during dating

Hi there, well i was thinking the other day about the recent posts i made about dating and the do’s and don’ts about it as well as giving advice and tips about what to say during a date and how to choose a good dating site for you. There are still so many other things i would like to talk about regarding dating and this topic is about people you should avoid, how to spot them whether its online or face to face and how to make the make sure you don’t get trapped into a situation which you may regret later. Of course each to their own some people want different things but most wouldn’t want these types of people or to be treated in a ill manor way. download 11

 

WOMEN TO AVOID

I need money  : Right most people in life struggle one way or another and it can be based on many things, but if your on a dating site or you just met a woman in the bar and she starts talking about the difficulties she has financially be aware!!!!. Of course she might might be talking about it in general without implying anything but some of women would us a typical sob story such as

”my parent is sick” , ”family member is unwell or dying”, ”i can’t afford the medication”, ”i can’t pay my rent and will be kicked out in the streets” or for the online site ” i need you so send me money so i can come and see you” .

These are and i’m sure 99% scams. There are women who do this for a living, meeting men making them feel sorry so they would give money, promise to pay them back and then they vanish without a trace and since they won’t use their real name or anything it will be hard for the police even to track them down. Also some girls works on behalf of other people who may be hackers, so if you send money to her via wire or bank  transfer these people will try to find a way to hack into your account.

I am materialistic : We all love to be treated once in a while and we enjoy some luxury time to time. But some women will literally mention their love for material over and over and they will hint it clearly. These women are also known as gold diggers or wanna be gold diggers.  They might say things such as ” my ex use to buy me at least one pair of expensive earrings once a week” or ” my ex use to drive a Ferrari and would let me drive it all the time” , ” my ex use to have a huge mansion”. Now i don’t know about you guys but if i was a man and went on a date with someone like that i would be put off. Its clear she is more interested in your bank account then you.  I mean you might mention one or two things regarding your previous partners but some just can’t help but to make it clear that they only want one thing.

I am clingy : i don’t think i have to explain much about this but how to spot one is very easy. Of course from the constant phone calls asking why you haven’t called back or the constant times she’s checking your facebook. Though remember some women will use the ” do you still like me??” nearly every time you don’t reply or call back straight away. The reason to avoid well because it will drive you mad  eventually. Despite how nice or beautiful she is, if she doesn’t give you space to breath or even acknowledge the fact that you might be busy then its better to avoid.

I am the only girl. When i say this i mean as in ‘‘ i am the only girl you should talk to, not other girls who are friends”. Now i can understand the not flirting with other girls part but not the ones that are his friends??? It would be like you telling her to stop all contacts with her guy friends despite the fact that they grew up together. Avoid these types of women its a bit more then insecure its more like control and possessive.

 

MEN TO AVOID

I am the best: This is to referring to egos -_-. i don’t even know where to start haha. But if you meet a guy and he starts to talk about himself like he is god given, the chances are that he is not. Avoid these men because eventually you will become sick of his bullshits and it will put you off. Also most of the time their only saying these high and dramatic just to impress you to get in your pants and nothing further.

I am a bum: Yeah i’m sorry but don’t go for men who are lazy bums or has not prospect what so ever. He will eventually rely on you and by then by the end of it you will be more like  a mother to him rather then a girl friend. I’m not saying he has to be a banker or a lawyer but he at least must have some sort of job he can support himself. Help and advice is good but don’t end up making yourself work 24/7 just to support both you and him.

I am alpha male: When i say this i mean like if you meet a guy and he’s still living the 1500s where you have to cook and clean and have no other prospects because he sees you as inferior being. It’s 2013 and i think that we are all equal regardless to gender. A man that treats you like a inferior is a big no no.

I like to get around : Now this one is referring to men who has slept around. This can either be true or it can be a lie to to impress. However i don’t know why a man would think its cool to tell a woman he has slept with over 100 people -_- . True or not avoid unless you just want a casual thing then fine. But remember this some guys will use the fact they have been with so many women to make you feel bad. Not because you didn’t do as much as him but they will say on the sly something like ” oh your not making as much effort, you know how many other i women i can get” or ” All the women i have been with were always hot, you seem to be letting yourself go” I’m not even joking some men will say things like this just to hurt you. So true or not just avoid this big drama.

I am possessive:  Not of course maybe in the beginning you wouldn’t see this but if a guy keeps calling you all the time, texing, facebooking you 100 times per day, then you know this is not a good sign. They will say things like ” where are you”, why your not picking up” who are you with” these questions are normal of course but being asked the same question 100 times per day can be a bit too much. They will even use line ” if you don’t pick up or respond in 10 mins i’m breaking up with you”. These are just words to control you. don’t put up with people who feels the need to treat you like a property rather then a human.

So there you go my theory on people to avoid during or even meeting a person i will just sum up the main things to avoid in both genders

  • Clingy
  • Possessiveness
  • Ego
  • Materialistic
  • Lazy
  • Selfish
  • Controlling
  • Sob stories/self pity
  • Sleazy
  • Trust issue
  • Superior

Anyways i should be sure to be writing more regarding to dating and types of  people 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

Things NOT to say to a guy/girl on a date

Right i’m sure that many of you have been on date that you wish you never went on because you  was asked or even felt like they was trying to be better then you that made you think ”ok then…….” or ” what a rude asshole”. I just want to clarify on the things you should’t say or even try to act better then the other person because it might end up with you being left on the spot in front of people or even a glass or two being thrown in your face lol.

WHAT GUYS SHOULDN’T DO:

Guess a girls age. Yes never EVER guess a woman’s age, i don’t even have to say why lol. Or never say what her age looks like she is. Unless you say she looks younger then her age which is fine but if the girl is 20 and you say she looks like a 15 year old it might come across that she isn’t womanly and that she has a body of a teenager. If you guess older then her age well…….. you kinda asked for what happens next XD

Ask how many guys she has slept with. Yeah asking that is a bit inappropriate and kinda none of your business unless she is open to talk about it but if she doesn’t it will come across that you have insecurities and that you may feel threaten by it.

Guess her dress size: Please don’t just for the obvious reason, some guys will try and guess and end up looking like a fool. Also this will show that you are only paying attention to one thing and you might look shallow.

Guess her bust size. Yes believe it or not some guys will guess on the first day, they might think its funny but it’s seen as sleazy.

Show off.  Nothing worse then a guy that shows off and talks about himself as a god -_-. You can talk about yourself in brief and even talk  about what you have achieved so far in life but don’t go over board and claim you are the greatest hence why you succeed in life so much. You would look like a egotistical freak.

Talk about her clothes choice. NEVER question why a girl decided to wear her outfit or clothes in general. Unless its like really torn and looks like it hasn’t been washed in years. But don’t ask her ” oh why you wearing that cardigan, makes your body seem more bigger”. Do you know how rude that is??? your basically trying to bring her down and if she leaves or slaps you i don’t blame her.

Don’t point things out. If you see a girl has a birthmark, scar or even a small spot, don’t point it out unless she tells you about it first and if she doesn’t there might be a reason why….. and i don’t need to explain further.

Don’t scan the sea. Don’t be looking around for other girls while you are on your date or be on the phone constantly. It is very rude and if that happen to me i myself would  just do what he is doing but i would actually leave the table and talk to any random guy  just to give him a taste of his own medicine.

WHAT GIRLS SHOULDN’T DO

Money talks : yes don’t mention to a guy how much you love money or if you see a nice car  i.e Ferrari and say to the guy ” i love guys with car’s like that”. You will seem like a gold digger and no guys like’s that.

Complain about small things : To be honest if you don’t like hair, beard, tattoos etc then why the fuck you going out with them???? Just to complain??? i don’t blame the guy for leaving you with the bill if you decide to go on a date with someone who has something you don’t find appealing just so you can  moan about it.

Don’t go over board. Just because the guy is paying and you know don’t think its ok to get don perignon or a lobster to go or a huge fancy expensive dish to go lol. I mean sure he is paying but don’t take the piss out of the guy.

Exs. Don’t talk about your ex though out the whole conversation. You will give the impression that you are not over the guy.

Being vain. Don’t talk about yourself like you are the hottest thing in the world and that every guy wants you.  It will make you look cheap and it will 99.9% of the time put the guy off.

Too serious. Don’t take the whole date too serious and don’t ask the guy on the first date that you want a serious relationship out of the date. I mean ok i’m sure sometimes people go on a date knowing what the long term out come will be but don’t be pushy and don’t scare the guy off. Just act like your just having dinner with a friend and relax then see who things go.

Dumb act. Don’t act like a dumbo the whole time or even at all lol. Just be you and see how it goes. Acting  too dumb will result to a guy only wanting one thing at the end of it and leave or not even because he finds you too immature.

GUY AND GIRL:

GIVE SOME SPACE. DON’T BE TOOOO CLOSE TO THE PERSON OTHERWISE IT WILL MAKE THEM FEEL UNEASY AND FEEL WEIRD.  GIVE AT LEAST ARMS SPACE BETWEEN  UNLIT THEY START FEELING MORE COMFORTABLE NEXT TO YOU.

DON’T EVER CALL THE  GUY OR GIRL CONSTANTLY AFTER THE FIRST DATE YOU WILL LOOK DESPERATE. ONCE OR TWICE OK BUT NOT 100 TOMES PER DAY  .download